
One of the most offensive expressions of contempt for women's equality is the dead
art of chivalry. And good riddance, too. Some people, men and women, continue to accept and promote chivalry, of which the most common expression is opening doors for women. Contrary to the seemingly benign and charitable character of the expression, one that has been engrained in many people's minds to the point where they hardly think about it anymore, the roots and hidden motives of opening doors stand contrary to a sense of fundamental equality and respect.
Yes, you could open a door for a woman and help her get through the door (as if she needed any help doing it, anyway), but you're crippling her in a much more fundamental way. You are giving her reason to expect this sort of helpful treatment from men wherever she goes. However, the same men that open the door for her would just as quickly shut the door if she was walking in as their boss. That is because the underlying sentiment behind opening doors for women is the expectation that men are more powerful, more capable of doing things than women are.
Am I saying stop opening doors for women? No! I'm saying open more doors for women than just the ones in buildings. Open the doors of the top positions in your company to women. Open the doors of your exclusive, all-male societies to women. Open doors for men as well. Not the exclusive doors to your companies and country club societies, they've already gotten through those doors. Open the doors to buildings: eliminate the gendered aspect of the gesture and leave only the charity. That is, be kind to men and women equally. And if you feel uncomfortable opening doors for men...well, get over yourself. Open doors for everyone - or stop opening doors for people altogether.