On Conflicts
I assure that I have not thought this thorough, but I'd try to make it
unbiased. Hope the non-polished words won't hide the content.
Everyone feels pain because they have conflicts, they seek things that
can resolve their conflicts. Such conflicts can reside in any domain,
in any form, and occur at any time. The most important thing in
resolving conflicts is the belief that conflicts can be resolved. Some
conflict may looks unresolvable, for example, when a person is old and
about to die, while s/he don't want to die, such conflict may seems
unresolvable. Actually you may find most of the religions are
originated as a solution to this conflict. Believing in afterlife will
effectively resolve the suffer's emotional conflict, and alleviate the
pain.
Frankly speaking, small conflicts are in some sence more important
because they are pervasive in our daily life, and they lead to bigger
conficts if not resolved. We want money, but don't want to work, we
want to work on what we like, which probably is not what we are working
on. We want to be loved, but may find that it is not free. To make it
worse, sometimes our attempts to resolve our conflicts may even incur
new conflicts, which could be even worse (that is the most desparate
time one coud experience.)
I'd propose a possible solution, which is a packet of thoughts:
1. believe that "ALL CONFLICTS CAN BE RESOLVED." If you feel desparate, read this to yourself.
2. be sensitive to real conflicts. (sometimes we
failed because we try to solve the wrong problem. a simple way to
identify real conflicts is that by solving it, your life should exhibit
positive changes. good luck on this.)
3. be sensitive to potential conflicts. (taking care
of your health when you are in twenties will save you a lot of trouble
when you are in eighties. the best way to kill the deamon is to not let
it born. )
from time to time, I believe you will deepen your understanding of
conflicts, how it could reside in physical, emotional, or even
spiritual domains, how it is reflected in art and science, how other
people deal with it, how it affect our life and world. There are lots
of serious conflicts worldwide today, to solve them you need to solve
your own first. A healthy person is a confict-free person, a healthy
society is a conflict-free society.