girls are very hard to figure out. i'm probably the 10^9 guy that has uttered these words and i'm certain there will be another 10^9 after me. even after making every attempt to be explicit and rational and empathetic and accomodating with them, there is ensuing drama, anxiety, vexation and eventual rigorous introspection of who we really are. the road to hell, they say, is paved with good intentions. no shit. perhaps we should revise that proverb to include superlatives like altruistic, sincere and tender. my main point of contention with women is that most don't seem to know what they want in a guy, and as a result go with the flow until they inevitably explode upon realizing their incompatibility manifested through "irreconcilable differences". those two words comprise 99% of divorces these days, i wonder why. not knowing what you want is alright, i suppose, if all you want to do is to have some fun and don't want to be seriously involved with someone - but this isn't what women want either. women think they want this, which is why a show like "sex & the city" resonates with so many, yet most women i've talked to about this show acknowledge that while the lifestyles of samantha, carrie, charlotte and miranda are extremely intriguing and very appealing, they are nevertheless highly unrealistic. so it's settled, women generally seek long term relationships, fine. but why go through many months of acrimony, heartache and regret with someone who doesn't drop everything he does to come and console you when you're hurting, surprise you on your birthday with flowers and your favorite food, remember the quaintest details of the conversations you have, beams with a glowing smile when you show up online? i have to admit that guys are also accomplices in this heist, but guys will do just about anything to get with a girl, most of them are beyond hope and don't need a blog entry like this to address them. the reality, if you're ready to hear and accept it, is that most of the time women are in control. for the love of guys, know what you want girls.